Friday, April 16, 2010
Somebody else's problem...
Aleigha was our first adopted child and because it was our first adoption experience I admit I was taken back and not quite prepared for the 'comments' that would come our way.
Some, more than others, were down right rude.
Some, more than others, cut us to the core.
Some, more than others, kept us lying awake at night- as much as we tried to ignore them.
We got every question and comment from "Were we completely crazy?' to “How dark will she be?” to "Don't you know that this is going to hurt your 'real' children"… to "Don't you already have enough children" to "Aren't you scared because you don't know any of her family history?" to “You are just taking on someone else’s problem".
As we dealt with and worked through the painful comments one by one-a funny thing happened. Our faith and our confidence grew and we became even stronger. While no one expect this (even us) we became more certain than ever before that adoption was indeed for us. We developed friendships with other adoptive families that were priceless and we learned more than we ever thought possible.
We learned the truth.
These questions and comments ended up actually being good for us...
They made us dig deeper, they made us think harder.
They made us turn to God and see what He had to say about adoption.
They made us see that these ridiculously rude personal questions were exactly why so many children continue to wait...
Because people let fear keep them from taking that first step... and they miss out on so very, very much because of it.
Satan loves that.
I am so thankful that we didn't let the lies hold us back. I am so thankful that we didn't let the fears keep us from moving forth. I am so thankful that we didn't let other peoples comments and opinions paralyze us.
I am so thankful that we said yes.
So today I would like to take a moment to introduce you to our "problem child" Aleigha. :0)
Aleigha (pronounced A-Lee-a) is 6 years old and was adopted from Guatemala.
Tomorrow night Aleigha will be standing in front of the school board and be presented with an award for being the Outstanding Kindergarten student this 9 weeks- out of 6 kindergarten classes.
Her teacher reported that Aleigha is a leader in her class, a wonderful example to her classmates and is kind and accepting to all kinds of children. She was asked to test for the gifted and talented program this year and is involved in church and soccer. She is a wonderful little sister and big sister. She has tons of friends, is happy, outgoing, kind, caring, loving, and continuously makes our life all the more sweeter.
But you want to know something?
While all of that is great-none of that effects how much we love her.
We didn't go into her adoption expecting a 'perfect' child- because we sure aren't.
We chose not to put conditions on our love for her from the very beginning.
We chose to love her the way Christ loves us- unconditionally.
We chose to love her just the way God made her.
Love her just the way she is.
Our love for her is not determined by the color of her skin, the grades on her report card, on her looks, her popularity, her talents- or on any problems she may face.
We simple love her because she is our daughter.
Because being her parents is one of the most precious, amazing, perfect gift we have been given.
She will make mistakes, she will fail, and she will fall. We all do.
But you know what?
We will be there to pick her up and it won't be a problem.
It will be a privilege.
Through the good and the bad, through the highs and the lows- she is a gift- and it is our privilege to be her mom and dad.