I have been quite surprised about all of the comments I have received from my previous post on Excuses. I guess more than anything, it made me realize that I am not the only one who struggles in this area.
This got me to start thinking more about what is really behind the our excuses... and I am ashamed to say, for me anyway, it's basically boils down to selfishness.
I guess though, in part, that is due to our strong protective nature that goes into effect the second we leave the womb. Out we come- into the big bad world- where immediately we demand our needs are met. These feelings of having our needs met are so strong that being able to think of others needs has to be taught...
and taught some more.
I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I have said to my children "How do you think that would make someone else feel?"
And, I remember my mother saying the same thing to me.
So because we are so in tuned to meet 'our own' needs, I think that often times we use excuses to protect what we do have -just in case we might need it later.
And, the truth is- if we open our home and our hearts to a child- it IS going to cost us
and probably a whole lot more.
Therefore, in our minds, our excuses become legitimate.
After all, we have to be able to protect 'our own' and give 'our own' what they need and want-so much so, that unfortunately, we have a nation full of (sorry) spoiled brats that no longer know how to think of anyone or anything else- but 'our own' needs and wants.
But the truth is, this life is not 'our own'.
It's not about us making it through safe.
It's not about us making it to the end with the greatest amount of comfort and ease.
I think somewhere along the way we have told ourselves it is okay to come up with these excuses in effort to cling to our securities. We seem to need some guarantee that before we take that first step of reaching out to someone else that our own needs will still be met, that things will go smoothly and that things will be easy.
Can I just be honest with you?
Things won't always be easy.
You will give until it hurts.
You will give of yourself.
You will make sacrifices.
and it will be work.
You will suffer
and you will hurt.
Like maybe what Jesus did for you and I on the cross?
I am so thankful that God chose to not only care about 'his own'. His one and only son.
I am so thankful for the sacrifices He made.
He gave it all.
And we are to follow His example.
He who did not spare his own son, but gave him up for us all-how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Romans 8:32